Grief is the lingering emotional pain that accompanies the loss of someone dear and close. (Many people do not realize this could be the side-effect of the death of a pet as well.) Bereavement is not a simple process – nor does it follow a set path of recovery. Each individual must travel through the grieving process at their own pace.
Some experts suggest that there are five stages of the grieving process or loss process.
1. DENIAL–the first of these stages is to deny the loss. “It can’t be–it’s a mistake”.
2. ANGER–blaming someone for the incident or the loss of your loved one.
3. BARGAINING–attempting to bargain with the higher power, or even yourself.
4. DEPRESSION–a common factor is limiting oneself and beating oneself up mentally.
5. ACCEPTANCE–dealing with the reality of the situation.
That is not to say there are not a great number of resources available to support the person who has suffered a personal loss. Indeed, there are many avenues one can pursue that will offer the psychological reassurance and guidance that will allow one to eventually move on with their lives. Some of these are listed below.
*Grief recovery support groups. These are caring groups of people found in seminars and other collaborative settings who are trained to help you recover and move forward with rebuilding your own life. There are dozens of these organizations that target specific subsets of persons such as grieving parents who have lost a child or widows of police officers killed in the line of duty.
*Church grief counseling. No doubt the person who has suffered the death of a loved one may come to question the larger philosophical questions about life. Many churches of all persuasions open their doors to private and or group counseling.
*Community Social Services. Most counties and/or states have an organized scaffolding of support services they offer to the public – including grief counseling. If you are having trouble locating one – call your public library; they will know.
Probably the hardest part of dealing with the loss of a loved one is accepting the reality of the situation–the loss itself. Only after one has accepted the situation can you start to work through it. The loss of a loved one has been rated as the highest stress cause of any other situation. One important key in the process of dealing with the loss is to mentally accept an environment without the deceased and to emotionally relocate them in an attempt to move forward with your life.
Seeking help from others particularly from your church can be invaluable in dealing with the stress of the loss of a loved one.
Greg Baumgartner is a personal injury lawyer in Houston, Tx and also the founder of the Baumgartner Law Firm, which is located at
6711 FM 1960 West, Houston, Tx 77069, Phone 281-587-1111.